Psychological Resilience And How To Recognize It
“Soft is stronger than hard,
water is stronger than stone,
love is stronger than violence.”
Herman Hesse
Why did Herman Hesse believe that something soft is stronger than something hard and rigid? If we take a closer look at this sentence, we come to the conclusion that Hesse was alluding to psychological resilience.
Mental resilience is our ability to adapt and deal with difficult situations. The concept of psychological resilience is well known in psychology, but it remains largely untapped for the layperson.
Psychological resilience is a tool that all living beings have, even if their forms differ.
It is a vehicle that enables us to face difficult times and get through them. It is a wonderful invention of nature, thanks to which it does not perish, even if it strains our emotions to the utmost.
It seems like there are people who find it easier than others to get through difficult times. It may take just as much strength, but at least they have a different attitude.
Psychological resilience is part of a complex mechanism in which other factors, such as the attitude we have towards a problem, also play a role. Perhaps because of this, some people seem to approach conflicts and difficult situations differently: with greater ease.
Various studies of modern psychology have shown that the following characteristics make up people with mental resilience:
1. You are able to identify the source of problems
People with great psychological resilience manage to develop the necessary strategies to prevent a problematic situation from occurring again in the future. This also includes self-analysis, because often the trigger of a conflict does not come from outside, but from within.
2. You can control their emotions
People with psychological resilience are able to control their thoughts because all feelings arise there. We think first, then we feel.
People with psychological resilience control their thoughts so as not to be guided by the negative ones that negative feelings can trigger.
3. Keep calm under pressure
We all go through difficult moments in our lives and it is important to keep calm during these. Individuals with psychological resilience are able to stay balanced and calm in chaotic situations and moments of confusion.
4. They are realists
There is a lot of bad talk about optimism. That includes the view that being positive implies denying certain aspects of reality that are inevitable and play a role in the lives of many.
Being realist but always hoping for the best is a good description of the form of optimism that characterizes people with mental resilience.
5. You have confidence
Individuals with mental resilience have confidence in their worth and in their ability to withstand adversity.
What we say to ourselves determines our reality. So if we think we are incapable of overcoming a particular obstacle, neither are we.
6. You are empathetic
People who are empowered to cope with problems more easily can read the feelings of others, understand what is happening around them, and act accordingly.
7. You have the ability to stimulate yourself
Not all people are the same. Some are motivated by challenges, others by opportunities for change.
People with psychological resilience have the ability to find new ways to happiness in life. You are always motivated and have the ability to discover and attract positive things.
8. You are not wondering why, but how
One of the key characteristics of people who can easily cope with problems is that they do not allow themselves to be influenced by reproachful thoughts that lead them to wonder why they themselves got into this difficult situation.
You may be wondering, “Why?” unlike people with psychological resilience who spend all of their energy trying to figure out how to get out of their predicament. Therefore, ask: “How does it go from here?”
Now, after reading about the characteristics of people with psychological resilience, if you think that you are not one of them, let me tell you that every person has psychological resilience.
If you start to look at things from a different angle , your problems will appear less dramatic and you may even be able to enjoy these challenges.
The key to this is the will to change something.
